A 4th Step at 25 Years Sober

Anyone can make bad choices and mistakes.

Some of us AA’s think that because we are sober, we are on some sort of highway of perfection.

The truth is if we were perfect we wouldn’t need a Higher Power, because we would be our own Higher Power.

No one is perfect.

We stumble around sober, being human living life imperfectly, stepping on toes, running away, being cruel or angry, hiding instead of keeping our promises, telling lies instead of living in the will of God.

We are imperfect creations of our own choices.

At some point the pain of lying to ourselves becomes too much to live with. This is the point we must come to a decision to live or die. Dying can take an awful long time if we chose to drink our guilt away. We strive for emotional sobriety as well as physical sobriety.

Choosing life sometimes is going to be shameful and embarrassing.  Telling the truth to ourselves and owning our part is the only way out of pain.

Sometimes we have to admit we are wrong.


it will be worth it.

The gift will be freedom, redemption, healing and love.

Pg.64-71 Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous


Alcohol More Harmful Than Heroin

Alcohol More Harmful Than Heroin

A new study suggests alcohol is more harmful than heroin or crack

MOST people would agree that some drugs are worse than others: heroin is probably considered to be more dangerous than marijuana, for instance. Because governments formulate criminal and social policies based upon classifications of harm, a new study published by the Lancet on November 1st makes interesting reading. Researchers led by Professor David Nutt, a former chief drugs adviser to the British government, asked drug-harm experts to rank 20 drugs (legal and illegal) on 16 measures of harm to the user and to wider society, such as damage to health, drug dependency, economic costs and crime. Alcohol is the most harmful drug in Britain, scoring 72 out of a possible 100, far more damaging than heroin (55) or crack cocaine (54). It is the most harmful to others by a wide margin, and is ranked fourth behind heroin, crack, and methamphetamine (crystal meth) for harm to the individual. The authors point out that the model’s weightings, though based on judgment, were analysed and found to be stable as large changes would be needed to change the overall rankings.


Be Thankful


Gratitude is the connection between acceptance and faith.

We Don’t Get Here By Accident



“When I got here, my mind was like a pinball machine, but blurry.” pinball_machine_tilt_alphanumeric_display_tshir

Down The Scale


“No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.”  Alcoholics Anonymous The Promises

Walk On The Wild Side

R.I.P. Loui Reed


So You’re Depressed?

It is amazing how unaware we all are about how substances can change our moods.

“I’ve had a terrible day. I can’t wait to get home, turn on the TV and have a glass of wine.”

Oh yeah, this is a great idea, because TV will help you numb out your feelings and wine is a depressant, so if you are depressed, angry about your hard day at work or resentful that you even have to work, then a glass of depression ought to do the trick.


The fact is alcohol is a depressant. It also is high in calories so if you’re already in questionable physical shape, then it will help you stay that way or get even worse. It also is full of sugar which can lead to diabetes, but the main benefit alcohol will contribute to your being is DEPRESSION. DUH!

“I’m sad and depressed, so I am going to go and get more sad and depressed.”

Yes, we understand because we’ve been there. It is a constant rat wheel with no end until we are sick and tired of being sick and tired.

The facts are:

1. If you are already depressed alcohol will not help or cure your depression.

2.If you are not depressed and you drink alcohol, you probably won’t become depressed from an occasional glass of wine. (they keyword here being “occasional”)

3. If you are an alcoholic, one will never be enough and an ocean of alcohol won’t be enough either.

Just sayin’

Betty Ford Center