From Anonymous Sober Driver Contributor
Last year I went to my first sober party ever, the week before Christmas. It was really special, because I was doing chemotherapy at the time and I had no hair, no eyebrows, and no eyelashes. I was in a brace because of an operation I had to remove a tumor.
My sober friends scooped me up and put me in the car and then took me to a meeting and asked if I wanted to go to a sober party. Some people from meetings didn’t recognize me.
But nobody was phased. They were all happy to see me and glad I was sober.
I love sobriety.
I went back to the same party tonight. It was great to say “here I am” – “I’m still here, and here’s my hair”.
I’ve heard people say, “God did for me what I couldn’t do for myself.”
I’ve also heard some people say when they first got sober they didn’t know whether to brush their teeth or load the dishwasher.
At 14 months sober, I remember sitting on my couch in my living room next to my sponsor and deciding which oncologist to go to. Just yesterday I thought about that and I got real still because I for the first time I realized the magnitude of what God doing for us what we can’t do for ourselves is.
I Walk Alone
I kept thinking, “it would be great to go to a movie, or a play, or the arboretum, or something fun.
Well, here’s my new thing I’m doing – when I think, “I’d like to do this or do that.” Then I promise myself I’m going to go, EVEN IF I HAVE TO GO ALONE. I order the tickets online, or make dinner reservations. Then I text five friends in recovery and ask if anyone would want to join me. But I go no matter what.
NO MATTER WHAT
The worst thing that can happen is I go see a movie by myself then have five sober friends calling me back over the next 24-48 hours.
If I end up going alone, I get in the car, jam my music and go. And I have to say doing something fun alone is one of the most empowering experiences ever!
The Best Christmas Present Ever
Calls, texts, emails, and letters from sponsees are the best Christmas present I’ve ever received next to the Lone Star Rodeo Barbie my Grandmother gave me when I was 7.
It got really dark for me the other day and I was thinking, “I just don’t think I can do this much longer. What’s the use? Are things really better?”. I keep praying for a Power Greater than me to send me a letter in the mail. Something that would fix the pain.
I stepped outside and had a postcard from a person, we’ll just call them the magic sponsee.
It had a list of four things the magic sponsee is praying for in my life. We’ve been together so long, the magic sponsee knows what my four dreams are.
Thanks, HIgher Power!
Oh Boy! Oh Boy! Oh Boy! The HOLIDAYS are here! What will they be like this year?
Happy New Year!
This is the first day of the rest of your life and it’s going to be AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Have a beautiful day!
You are not alone!
Stay in the rooms!
I think some times a person is addicted to winning or addicted to owning or controlling another person, but addicted to love?
Hmm, that just doesn’t make sense.
Can a person be addicted to their emotions?
I see how a person can be in such fear of losing another person and the fear of being alone that they cling like a cling on.
I understand that, but does love apply here?
I see how a person stays in a bad relationship out of guilt, but love is done by that time, that’s not love, so addicted to love doesn’t make sense.
Being in love doesn’t mean being a door mat…Loser..
Being in love doesn’t mean you are constantly compromised or your trust is broken over and over.
That’s not even a good friendship.
Friday I’m in Love
We romance independence and never ask for help or companionship, so we can prove our “Strength.”
I find it easy and some what lazy to be alone. Much less hassle than having to actually relate to or love someone or risk my heart.
Being alone protects us from getting hurt or disappointed.
Ya, it’s a really good solution, right?
We also get the opportunity to feel sorry for ourselves because we are misunderstood or be a hater of all the people out there who are beneath our intelligence and greatness.
Spending time in graveyards is a solution. You never have to have a real relationship with any one there.
“I’m a loner baby. That’s how I roll.”
“It’s lonely at the top”
One is the loneliest number.
Feeling alone even when you’re with someone really sucks.
We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone.” Orson Welles
|“WHEN I FEEL ALONE OR LEFT OUT THE FIRST THING I WANT TO DO IS , CRAWL IN MY BED AND ROLL UP AND FEEL SORRY FOR MYSELF.”|
“Loneliness adds beauty to life. It puts a special burn on sunsets and makes night air smell better.” Henry Rollins
I love, love, love this song… so, so, so feel this…saw her in 1980 Hot Club Dallas.
I Think We’re Alone Now (Tommy James and Shondells song)
Lene Lovich 1979 (American Born raised in London)
The funny thing is:
Our solution to loneliness is, to be by ourselves.
Almost without exception Alcoholics and Addicts of all kinds are tortured by loneliness.
We suffer old pangs of anxious apartness.
The 5th step relieves our terrible burden of guilt.
“Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.”
5th step keywords:
Objective look, Humility, Courage, Honesty, Relief, Admitting.