Step Up

“Style is very personal. It has nothing to do with fashion.

Fashion is over quickly. Style is forever.”

Ralph Lauren  


Was punk over when you could buy a ripped t-shirt in K-Mart in 1981?

Punk music is now a genre.

..still the attitude lives on.

Getting sober when every one around you is a drunk, takes courage.

Ending addiction and taking control of our lives when we are terrified of change?…that’s way Punk Rock.

The 12 Steps

  • Step 1 – We admitted we were powerless over our addiction – that our lives had become unmanageable
  • Step 2 – Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity
  • Step 3 – Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God
  • Step 4 – Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves
  • Step 5 – Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs
  • Step 6 – Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character
  • Step 7 – Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings
  • Step 8 – Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all
  • Step 9 – Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others
  • Step 10 – Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it
  • Step 11 – Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out
  • Step 12 – Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs

Hot Punk Summer

Houston weather separates the men from the boys and the women from the grrls and as we all know our punk venues are not the most ventilated or air-conditioned.

So, who’s in for mosh pits and sweaty people falling on your head?

Raising a paw, she smiles…

We were brought up in this heat and crazy and I don’t know if we are just homeys or if  it is some kind of religious calling.

We just get it and it’s FUN! and if one is fussy about their looks, I wouldn’t recommend coming out to shows. You can sweat off your Chanel, your hair gel and your lipstick in two seconds!! Heeee

You homeys got my back, right. Sober punks do exist…..


So, if you’re a little adventurous and daring why not come pee in a rickity bath room and drink out of plastic cups and listen to some great music and feel the energy?

Who knows you might even sweat a little?

Happy Independence Day!!  Break free Mutha f*ckas…

Anarchitex 2011

Ca Ca Convention

Black Congress

Slums of Heaven

God Save the Queen

 I asked my English friend if he was gonna get up at 4 am and watch the royal wedding.

He said, “I left England to get away from that stupid shit.”

Then he started talking about punk, soccer, skin heads and the National Front. Ahh.. the memories…

Super doubt I will be putting on a copy of Princess Dianna’s engagment ring and making scones in the wee hours of the morn. Sleeping sounds like a betta’ plan.

But Good Luck to the happy couple.

Sex Pistols

God save the Queen

Punk Rock and AA Saved Me From Killing Myself and You

In the late 70s punk rock was born and gave way to what people may recognize as tribal, creating a new form of music and fashion. Honestly for me, it was the family of my dreams. I was encouraged to be as wild and angry expressing myself and all the rage inside of me to the fullest. For me, it was a form of expression. I developed lasting friendships that have witnessed a great portion of my life. I will say that AA is somewhat like that for me. Though I am taught to follow the 12 steps and traditions and I am not drunk like before, I am encouraged to question and I am always accepted in my abstract beliefs. I can truly say that both AA and Punk Rock saved my life.

My sober punk rock friend, who was also part of the punk scene back when, says,

“For me it was pretty much the same. For as long as I can remember, I wanted off this planet! Life at home was terrifying and full of rage. All I wanted was out. I started to drink at age 8 and drugs at 9. That was one way out!

Drugs and alcohol took me away from all “this”. They worked till they didn’t. Finally I found relief.  I was also in love with music. As Lou Reed so eloquently put it “it’s my wife and it’s my life”. That applied to drugs, alcohol, and music.

I loved lyrics. Mostly then, they were about drugs and alcohol. Then a friend turned me on to “Punk Rock”. The lyrics were about hate and injustice and they made fun of the status quo.  Right up my alley. They perfectly expressed in words, how I felt. This was my new family, my chosen family. I could finally express my darkest feelings and no one minded. They didn’t care that I was broken. In fact they were broken too!

Very much like AA, we had a common bond.

Over the years (at least 35) some of us were lucky enough to find another way to survive. Unfortunately many didn’t. I miss them. There but for the grace of God, there go I.

There has been a resurgence of old skool punk rock. With that, I have reconnected with some old “warriors” from my past. Some will say it’s dangerous to go to clubs to participate in music.  And I do participate! For me it’s like a high skool reunion only sexier!”

My friend picked this song. Really kinda says it all.

Dead Kennedys

Too Drunk to Fuck 1981

Alley Cat

Crazy Luck to have been born with a musician for a father. My father’s birthday was this month. He would have been 85.

I grew up with music filling my life. I was playing drums as a two-year old on stage with my dad.

I began piano at age 5 and learned to play really fun songs like Alley cat, written by Bent Fabric. My piano teacher taught me classics, but my Dad’s best friend taught me all the cool songs like Alley cat. He owned a supper club/piano bar. As a child, I spent a lot of time doing dinner and music with them.

My dad’s best friend and my dad were periodically getting checked into the VA hospital for treatment of alcoholism and once my dad’s best friend hit a hole in one on the golf course there. He never told any one about his grand accomplishment, except close friends and family, because he was ashamed that he was there for recovery from alcoholism.

Now, times have changed and recovery from addiction is a welcomed supported path, but back then alcoholics were only thought of as people in the gutter, not people who may have lived in affluent households. Shame keeps people sick.

My dad’s best friend died very young from complications of alcoholism, as did my father.

RIP my dear kindred spirits and thank you for the music…

Alley Cat

Bent Fabric

He goes on the prowl each night Like an alley cat Looking for some new delight Like an alley cat She can’t trust him out of sight There’s no doubt of that He just don’t know wrong from right Like an alley cat He meets them And loves them And leaves them Like that Catsanova does That’s no way to treat a pal She should tell him Scat! Aren’t you sorry for that gal And her alley cat? He meets them And loves them And leaves them Like that Catsanova does He don’t know what faithful means There’s no doubt of that He’s too busy makin’ scenes Like an alley cat And that’s the sad, sad tale of a lonesome quail And her alley cat.

Put on Your Seat Belt

Tips from Sober Driver

Do we get into a car when a friend has had a few drinks and insists on driving?

How do we handle that ?

Is it illegal to take away a drunk person’s car keys?

She is demanding her keys back, because they’re her property. She swears she is not planning to drive, but on a previous occasion, when she finally got her keys back, she promptly took off to a local bar. With this precedent, is it legally acceptable to withhold someone’s car keys from them as long as they’re intoxicated?


Entertaining a guest who is an alcoholic in recovery.

  • Feel free to serve alcohol beverages at your gathering. You need not plan your party around a guest you know is in recovery. “Alcoholism comes in a person, not in a bottle. The recovering alcoholic won’t suddenly relapse if alcohol is available.”
  • Don’t make a big deal of it if someone at your party is in recovery. There are plenty of reasons people say no to alcohol beverages, including preference, dieting, interactions with medications, and serving as designated driver, as well as being in recovery from alcoholism. There is no reason to differentiate one guest’s reason for abstaining from another’s. If someone declines a drink, don’t ask why.
  • Include non-alcoholic beverages in your offerings. While some non-drinkers will drink non-alcoholic beer and wine, most recovering alcoholics prefer beverages that don’t look or taste like the real thing.
  • Foods cooked with wine, brandy, and other spirits long enough to destroy the alcohol content are technically OK. Most, but not all recovering alcoholics feel comfortable eating them, so let guests know what’s cooked with alcohol.
  • Foods with uncooked alcohol are another matter. If you include them on your buffet table, label them so the recovering alcoholic can steer clear.
  • The same goes for punch; let guests know if it contains alcohol.

Don’t drink and drive and don’t ride with anyone who has too much to drink. Remember, it is usually themselves and their passengers who are harmed by drunk drivers. Volunteer to be a designated driver.

  • If you must drive after drinking, stay completely sober:
  • Don’t be fooled. The contents of the typical bottle or can of beer, glass of wine, or liquor drink each contain virtually identical amounts of pure alcohol. When it comes to alcohol, a drink is a drink is a drink and are all the same to a breathalyzer.
  • Drink Safely graphicKnow your limit.

  • Eat food while you drink. Food, especially high protein food such as meat, cheese and peanuts, will help slow the absorption of alcohol into your body.
  • Sip your drink.
  • Accept a drink only when you really want one. If someone tries to force a drink on you, ask for a non-alcohol beverage instead. If that doesn’t work, “lose” your drink by setting it down somewhere and leaving it.
  • Skip a drink now and then. Having a non-alcoholic drink between alcoholic ones will help keep your blood alcohol content level down, as does spacing out your alcoholic drink.
  • Keep active; don’t just sit around and drink. If you stay active you tend to drink less.
  • Beware of unfamiliar drinks. Some drinks can be deceiving as the alcohol content is not detectable.
  • Use alcohol carefully in connection with pharmaceuticals.


  • Designated Driver graphic Volunteer to be a designated driver.
  • Don’t ever let your friends drive drunk. Take their keys, have them stay the night, have them ride home with someone else, call a cab, or do whatever else is necessary – but don’t let them drive!

Drink Drive Black Flag 1985

Romancing Rebellion Dogs

“A whole lifetime geared to self-centeredness cannot be set in reverse all at once. Rebellion dogs our every step at first.”

How does one really change?

Quitting an addiction is the first step, but yet we cling to our overwhelming compulsions and desires, our anger, our resentments.

The Solution is to make a change in our attitudes and learn the meaning of humility. Quit fighting every body and every thing.

Would You Rather Be Right or Happy?

Getting right sized and practicing humility can be an incredible tool.

Humility or humbleness is a quality of being courteously respectful of others. It is the opposite of aggressiveness, arrogance, boastfulness, and vanity. Rather than, “Me first,” humility allows us to say, “No, you first, my friend.”

It’s Valentine’s Day! Practice the Golden Rule and Celebrate LOVE!!

The Damned


I’ve got the fare if you’re my inspector

I’ll be the luggage, if you’ll be the porter

I’ll be the parcel if you’ll be my sorter

Just for you here’s a love song

Just for you here’s a love song

And it makes me glad to say

It’s been a lovely day

And it’s okay

I’ll be the mail, you’ll be the guard

I’ll be the ink on your season ticket card

I’ll be the rubbish, you’ll be the bin

I’ll be the paint on the sign if you’ll be the tin

Just for you here’s a love song

Just for you here’s a love song

And it makes me glad to say

It’s been a lovely day

And it’s okay